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Twenty Days of Prayer: Day 11

God’s special words to husbands and fathers

Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

From this verse we see that God calls the husband to be the spiritual head of the home. He is responsible to give spiritual guidance and nurture.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

The husband is commanded to love his wife with a powerful, sacrificial love. He is to literally sacrifice himself to meet the needs of his wife. The husband is to “give himself” to meet the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of his wife. In every way, he is to place the needs and welfare of his wife ahead of his own.

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

The husband is commanded to be very caring and sensitive to his wife’s needs. A husband’s uncaring, insensitive attitude toward his wife will inevitably hinder his ability to pray.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

The father is commanded to relate to his children in loving spiritual guidance, not in anger or wrath. Discipline must be done with consistency and love. The father’s great priority is the spiritual nurture and training of his family.

Questions for Reflection:

Husband, do you set a loving atmosphere of spiritual nurture and training? Do you put your wife’s needs and desire ahead of your own? Do you study to understand and meet the unique emotional needs of your wife? Are you providing wise financial guidance and stewardship for the security of your family? Are you guiding your children in spiritual growth and training? Do you discipline your children with consistency and love? Do you consistently talk to your children about spiritual values?

God’s special words to wives!

Ephesians 5:24, 33 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. (33) However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

The submission of the wife does not mean the husband can be a harsh master or boss over her. They are equal partners n the grace of Christ. Rather, her submission is the loving and willing submission seen with Christ and His Church. A godly wife exhibits a beautiful spirit of humility, love and honor toward her husband. She is to have a “gentle and quiet” spirit.

1 Peter 3:3-4 Do not let your adorning be external–the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear– (4) but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Questions for Reflection:

Wives, do you ever treat your husband with dishonor and disrespect? Do you often point out his weaknesses and faults? Do you patiently forgive and treat him kindly in spite of his shortcomings? Do you ignore his needs and desires? Have you grown careless with your health and appearance? Do you have a rebellious spirit toward him? Have you done all you can do to bring your attitude in line with the pattern God has set for you in Scripture? Is your attitude one of thanksgiving and love or complaining and anger?

God’s special words to parents!

Matthew 18:6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

Because children are incredibly perceptive, they usually pick up more from what parents do than what they say. Often without even realizing it, parents are modeling values and habits that have tragic effects on their children’s development.

Questions for Reflection:

Parents, do you model excitement and joy about worshiping God? Do you consistently express love for Christ’s church or a negative complaining attitude? Do you lovingly and consistently communicate with each other? Do you consistently take time to talk to your children? Do you really listen when your children talk to you? Do you respond with love and understanding or quickly become angry? Do you model moral purity by the things you watch or read? Have you consistently communicated God’s standards concerning sex and marriage to your children? Do you communicate in a way that reveals understanding about their temptations and struggles? Have you been approachable and loving? Do you consistently model honesty and respect for others? Have you demonstrated the ability to readily admit your own sins and failure? Do you readily admit your sin or do you make excuses?


October 23, 2009 - Posted by | Bible, Bible Study, Biblical Interpretation, Christian, Christianity, family, God, Jesus, Life, marriage, Prayer, relationship, Religon, Theology

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